Starting next wednesday I am babysitting an eleven year old boy whose mother I already knew. I´m 16 years old and I´ve been a babysitter before for a younger boy and a girl and it went fine.
The mother told me the boy washes by himself but she wants me to check him while he is taking bath, as she always does, just to make sure he washes properly, which she says he doesn´t do if he is left unsupervised. I´ve bathed both the 5 year old boy and the girl I´ve been a babysiter for. It went fine.
This boy however is older and he may not like a girl checking him while he is bathing and ɴᴀκᴇᴅ. I don´t know because I have never been a babysitter for an eleven year old boy.
Have you ever been a babysitter for a boy this age and did you use to bath him or check him in the bath? How did it went?
How old were you when you did it?
wow this kid should have learned to bathe properly years ago. i wouldnt check in on him because hes way too old for that and its not right. if the mother insists that you check on him all you need to do is knock on the closed door. no need to help a kid whos almost a teenager take a bath.
Thats sooooo wierd and creepy! I'm 17 and I babysit and 11 year old boy and I know that the parents wouldn't ask me to do such a thing in a million years!!!! You should not go through with it because I can't even think of how it could be more awkward and inappropriate! You're only for years apart! I'm pretty sure the boy is going to friek out if you go in there and see his privates! I can't believe that he can't wash himself by now... maybe he really can but his mom is just off her rocker! I would seriously talk to the mother and tell her that you are not comfortable with that and will only babysit for her if thats not required. Even if he doesn't get the perfect bath the day you babysit him, can't the mom just do that the next day or before you come. It's not that big of a deal to not bathe one day! I know that some adults on here have told you to just go through with this but I don't think they're considering how embarrising the situation will be. I feel funny enough babysitting an 11 year old boy so I kind of became more like friends with him then a babysitter so that he won't feel wierd about it so I can't imagine doing what you're asked too! I would tell the mom that there is noooooooo way I can do that! Sorry!
I've never had to bathe a child while babysitting.
Most parents don't trust a teenager to give their kids a bath.
I usually help the younger ones get ready for bed, but that's about it.
If you don't want to check in on the boy (i think he is too old for you to do that anyway).. I would tell the mother that you are uncomfortable in doing so. Maybe he could take an early bath for a day, and save you both some ambarassment.
If not, you could just knock on the door, and say something like "Remember to wash behind your ears!" or something.. without actually going inside. A mother doing it is one thing, a teenage girl is another.. I don't think he would want you in the bathroom with him while he is taking a shower..
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My parents are divorced and my mom took us to get all of our piercings before we were 18 (we were 16 not 11) and it was no problem, they didn't even ask about my dad. A tattoo on an 11 year old would be so stupid, as soon as he grows it will change shape and not look the same! That's crazy to me that his mother would let him do such a thing! I would hope that a tattoo shop would not allow this but its safe to say that Sam should be worried.
When I was 11, I would of loved the 16 year old babysitter to come and give me a hand!
When I was 11 I bathed alone, I dreamed of company of an older girl while I was bathing and had several happy incidences while soaping up thinking of just that exact scenario.
Stay out of the bathroom.
No way. He's already a pre-teen...and the opposite gender. I know his mother wants you to check in on him, but I don't think that's right. He's WAY too old.
I babysat kids that age when I was 16, sure, but I let them bathe in private and told them that if they didn't wash well, I'd have to sit there and watch them (I'd never do that though and I never had to). I let them be.
Isn't he embarrassed by all of this?
I had a parent who wanted me to do the same thing when I babysat her 12 year old daughter. Even though I'm a girl I was still uncomfortable with it so after about 10 minutes I would knock, ƈɾąƈƙ open the door so she could hear me clearly, and ask if she was doing ok. She would say "yes" and I would tell her she had 10 more minutes before she needed to dry off. It lets you do what the parents want without embaressing your charge.Source(s): I'm 19 and have been babysitting since I was 14 🙂
I don't think it is very appropriate for a 16 yr old girl to have to check on an 11 yr old boy in the shower, i can see why you have a problem with it. He is old enough to wash on his own. Just stand outside the door and time him, once in awhile knock on the door and tell him to be careful and wash himself properly but make sure he doesn't stay in there too long. Wait until you know he is in a towel before you open the door, it gives him privacy but he still know you're outside the door and can hear whatever he's doing. If it becomes necessary to go into the bathroom while he is in there, announce that you are coming in first and keep your stay in there short. It's a very awkward situation but i think you'll be alright. Good Luck!
All I know is that at 11 I d have loved for a 16yo girl to look in on me in the bath.