An old Chinese saying goes "before setting out on revenge, first dig two graves."
To exact revenge on a person, this only brings oneself down to the level of the person who first committed the act against a person.
The person who was wronged should be strong enough to keep growing through trials and errors in their life.
It is a worthless cause because revenge just begets more revenge.
If A takes revenge on B for a wrong, B will see what A did in revenge as a whole new wrong and B will take revenge on A. Now A's been wronged again and will take... well you get the idea.
Disagree. The worth of revenge is in its ability to make a person come to peace with any internal issues that might not have otherwise been repressed until explosion, which would probably have worse repercussions than revenge to oneself and others. No cause is worthless.
Perhaps not "THE MOST" worthless cause, but certainly one of the top five most worthless causes!!! One reason is that in, through, because of, for revenge there is NEVER a positive outcome nor end of process.
Yes I agree with AP.
I am agree with the Kings. First, I am agree with King James Bible when Jesus the King of all Kings said,"Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD. (Leviticus 19:18 NIV) Yes, I am agree with King Arthur also to what he said.
When there is something that causes you harm, makes your survival or prosperity more difficult, I think you have an ethical obligation to settle the matte by direct confrontation with that thing. The benefit of this is twofold: If you succeed, then you will cripple or eliminate that thing's power to inflict further injury upon you or others, and whether you suceed or fail, you at least make clear to everyone that injury is a serious matter, not to be taken lightly, because he who causes injuries risks wrath and revenge upon himself.
It is this tit-for-tat mentality, a born instinct in humans and in fact most advanced animals, which is the true system of justice for nature. In empirical expiraments of the mathematical question of optimum strategy of 'prisoner's dilema' type games, it is THIS strategy which thus far, has proven to be the optimum one.
Our legal system is merely an agreement, is in essense a temporary thing, and must always be implicity supported with actual power and willingness murder or kill in support of that legal system in order to, in fact, exist.
Struggle and conflict is the source of evolution. It is what motivates things to reach their full potential. It is what human beings owe their conciousness to. It ensures the survival of the stronger, and ironically, the stronger is in fact the one better able to cooperate and show compassion.
"when flesh is rotten, even when it is our own, cut it off!"
Worthless and I'll tell you why.
My friend had a boyfriend who cheated on her. She was devistated because it caught her completely by surprise and was going on for months without her knowledge.
She decided to get even. She set out to cheat on him by using some poor dude. She plotted and planned it all out and got her revenge.
However it was not so sweet. WHY?
Because she worked hard to get her revenge. She was actually OBSESSED about it...while her boyfriend, on the other hand, didn't giver her a single thought all the while he was cheating on her. She wasn't on his mind te whole time.
Yet-- he was totally on here mind with every advance she made with the other guy she didn't care about. He was her motivation. She was consumed by thoughts of getting even with him.
What's the moral?
He didn't think of her ONCE. She constantly thought of him. He was her driving force and she was compelled to get even.
Revenge is a means to continue hurting yourself in order to hurt someone else. This prevents the healing process.
The only difference between revenge and justice is emotion. And like justice, revenge can be good or bad, depending on the safeguards to assure fair application.
If revenge is fairly administered, it has the same worth as justice.
Depends. Justice can supplant revenge only in just societies. Not all are such and many, if not most are far from it.
PS Consider the evolution of spite.
Agree, it is a waste of energy. If you lower yourself to their level you are only a hypocrite, why would you want revenge to be like what you despise?